GRACE CHATTER

I know everybody has mentioned this, and I want to shout out to my sisters and brothers who are practicing Celibacy!!! Yall tight honey, because you know like I know setting the standard is a must!

I told my fiancée I am going to do a blog on Celibacy and honey its been 5 years for me 1,935 days come June 1st! The breakout session hahaha. But, seriously making this choice was not even my own, this was God’s choice for me way before I even gave my life to God. Have you ever done something months or years before and never understood why, but at the right time of your life you now understand? That’s exactly what happened to me. The desire was snatched and the boredom of just having sex took over.

February of 2014 was the last time, but I didn’t surrender my life to God until August of 2014. HOW SWAY!!!! HONEY, Let’s get real. God had a plan for me way before I knew it. Practicing celibacy was not just a goal set for me, it was a lifestyle. This was not a bet on how long I could hold out, it was a lifestyle and the desire to not want to hurt my first love which was/is Jesus. Cliché I suppose, but it’s true. The truth behind being celibate, is the stronghold behind it all. Being too deep? Naw, none of this is too deep, when soul tides take place. Nothing is too deep, when you just cannot end an horrible emotional or physically abusive relationship because “I love him or her”. Little do you know, soul tides is the reason behind the struggle of moving on from that certain someone. You want to go, but you can’t or you really don’t like them, but something is keeping you there. Be like frozen honey and “LET IT GO, LET IT GOOOO”.

On a serious note, celibacy has changed my life. You really see the guys/girls who really are practicing celibacy and playing games honey. All I could say is, you not ready for me honey “because I’m Bout it, Bout it” (Master P voice). But, I can honestly say if it were not for the Holy Spirit keeping me, I cannot do this on my own. It’s funny how I say this, because I actually tried to do this on my own in high school without praying through it at all HONEYYYYY, I didn’t last 24 hours. I kept playing and putting myself in situations that would lead to sex. Tell me the scripture is not true? “You can’t put hot coals in your bosom, and not be burned”, I can’t put myself in tempting situations and not give in.

You want to stop? Honey, stop playing and if you feel like you cannot control yourself get you someone who can hold you accountable. Hang out in groups and don’t be trying to stay alone with that person if you can’t control yourself. Hahaha I sound like I’m old. I use to be like “ok, you’re doing to much I can control myself, you don’t have to do all of that”. Honey my faith was bold in myself and 20 minutes later I done gave in when I didn’t even want to. Full of pride and confidence that I could overcome this thing without God’s help. But, once I started to realize what God did in February He had already started the process, I now can say God continue to keep me. I acknowledged that this can only be God to do something overnight, what I’ve already tried beforehand. This was all Him.

Celibacy/Abstinence can be done and if you messed up, ask God to forgive you and get back up. Let me put this disclaimer out here now, GOD CAN/WILL FORGIVE YOU if you are sincere. GOD CAN/WILL keep you if you desire to be kept. Do not beat yourself up, I never said I was perfect. This was not a struggle for me, but drinking alcohol was a struggle to deny alcohol daily. Everybody has their cross to bear and their own struggle, so don’t beat yourself up honey you can do it!

I challenge you today, figure out your cross. If you are already practicing celibacy, then hone you still got a cross in another area of life. If you want to be celibate, find that cross and ask God to walk along side you and to keep you through this walk with him. If your cross is alcohol, ask God to walk along side you and to keep you on this road to sobriety. Whatever your cross maybe, ask God to walk with you and watch your situation change. Watch how he changes your attitude and desire towards that thing that previously had you bound. Take the Challenge and let me know how God transforms this for you.

Honey, I told you we were going to Get Real. Bring the Honey with the Tea next week…

Love and Strength to you,

Tia